SAVORING THE MICRO-MOMENTS OF HUMAN CONNECTION
It’s easy these days to get drawn into a variety of small boxes: computers, televisions, iPads, kindles, smart phones… or occasionally even an actual book. There are a lot of wonderful possibilities within each of these (particularly books, but I’m old fashioned), but they can also deprive us, if we’re not careful, of life’s greatest joys: the treasure of human connection.
Fortunately, it’s fairly easy to counter this tendency, and enjoy the benefits of a richer emotional life, and a healthier physical life, as a result. I’ll show you how shortly.
One of my favorite researchers is Barbara Fredrickson, of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, who studies “micro-moments of connection.” The nice conversation we have with the checkout person at the grocery store; the warm greeting of welcome by a new acquaintance at a meeting; even the moment of eye contact with a stranger who holds open a door.
That wonderful warm feeling is something that is much more ubiquitous than we might expect.
It turns out that these micro moments of connection are actually filled with stuff that is good for us, emotionally, psychologically, and in terms of our overall health… like a good meal is filled with nutrients.
The more positive emotions we have, the better our “vagal tone” is. Our vagal tone is the strength and health of our vagus nerve, which connects our heart with our brain and our internal organs. Our vagus nerve, among other things, controls our heart rate variability.













