DON’T OBSESS ABOUT THE LIFE YOU THINK YOUR KIDS HAVE TO HAVE
It's natural to want good things for our kids. We want them to grow into strong, good people; we want them to have work they love that enables them to live well; we want them to find good friends and a wonderful mate with whom they can grow a wonderful, loving life. We want them to succeed.
There is an expression of this natural sentiment, though, that I'm seeing more of and it troubles me. I have talked with people who are freaking out because their 5 year old isn't measuring up, or their 10 year old might not be able to get into the top preparatory Jr. High School that will feed into the top preparatory High School that will get them into the top university.
It's not that these parents see certain talents in their kids, and support them to do their best and to flourish. It's different than that. This is not about flourishing, or living a happy, successful life; it's obsessing about getting into a club. And, I fear, more accurately, that this club is a particularly seductive and dangerous one. Here's why.
