LIFE’S GREATEST JOY
It's easy these days to get drawn into a variety of small boxes: computers, televisions, iPads, Kindles, smartphones... or occasionally even an actual book. There are a lot of wonderful possibilities within each of these (particularly books, but I'm old-fashioned), but they can deprive us, if we're not careful, of life's greatest joy: the treasure of human connection.
Fortunately, it's fairly easy to counter this tendency, and enjoy the benefits of a richer emotional life and a healthier physical life as a result.
One of my favorite researchers is Barbara Fredrickson of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Her new book is Love 2.0, in which she looks at "love from the body's perspective." She has been studying how the experience of the emotion of love affects your physiology, including your physical health.
Now, when we hear the word "love," the first form that usually comes to mind is romantic love. But this is only one framework within which we feel the emotion of love.
We even feel a kind of love in what Fredrickson calls "micro-moments of connection." The nice conversation we have with the checkout person at the grocery store; the warm greeting of welcome by a new acquaintance at a meeting; even the moment of eye contact with a stranger who holds open a door - that wonderful warm feeling is something that is much more ubiquitous than we might expect.
It turns out that these micromoments of connection are actually filled with stuff that is good for us, emotionally, psychologically and in terms of our overall health... just as a good meal is filled with nutrients. Here's how and why.
