GETTING TO THE CARNEGIE HALL OF YOUR LIFE
The legendary violinist Jascha Heifetz (1901-1987) was strolling down 57th Street in Manhattan one spring morning when a young man, looking lost, approached him. "Excuse me, sir," he said to the virtuoso not knowing who he was, "could you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?" Heifetz smiled gently, nodded sagely, and answered, "Practice, my son, practice."
It's a famous joke - Jack Benny was fond of telling it - that points to an eternal truth. One of the principles of living a happy life is that it takes willpower, it takes discipline, and it takes practice in order to live well.
This may seem strange if your vision of happiness is ease and momentary pleasure. But ease and momentary pleasure are not what make for a happy life, any more than ice cream is what makes for a healthy diet.
In my work I talk about and teach a lot of different skills that can make for a happier life - if you practice them. Knowing about them, understanding them, thinking about them are fine intellectual exercises, but they will not improve your life.
What improves your life is practicing the skills of a good life; or, if you're more ambitious, practicing the skills of a great life.