WHAT MEMORY IS AND IS NOT
This immortal scene of Maurice Chevalier and Hermione Gingold in the 1958 movie Gigi is so endearingly charming because Chevalier is so good-natured about his misremembrance.
It’s often difficult, however, to be that way regarding our memories.
Understanding what memory is – and is not – can do wonders for our relationships, our self-awareness and our peace of mind.
Sitting at the table at Thanksgiving, a family member might recount a memory of an event from your childhood, talking about what you experienced as if his perception of your sentiments on the subject is a fact.
How does that make you feel? Probably at least a little annoyed. He, after all, did not have your memory. He had his memory.
You were both there in the same place at the same time, but you were having your experience of the event and he was having his. The two experiences could be worlds apart.
We’ve all had those arguments where one of us remembers things one way, and the other remembers it differently. For instance…











