THE HEALING POWER OF PLAYFULNESS

[I cannot recommend Joel’s advice here more highly. After over 40 years, the sort of playfulness he describes continues to make my marriage with Rebel stronger and so much fun. Further, today, Nov 12, happens to be Joel’s birthday... (you can greet him at jwade@drjoelwade.com) Joel has been with us since the inception of TTP in 2003. Happy Birthday, Joel!]
A relationship can have complex and unique needs at any given time, so there isn’t really a one size fits all panacea for troubles. But of all the specific actions we can take to improve our relationships, I have found none that apply as often or as effectively as this:
Be playful.
Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But it’s more challenging than meets the eye, and there are clear guidelines for it to work:
We have to approach play as allies, as a member of the same team; we have to be for our spouse, our child, our friend, our co-worker; and the play must have a spirit of love, kindness and optimism, as opposed to cynicism or sarcasm. There cannot be bitterness or resentment clouding the play; it’s the combination of creative, interactive flow and positive emotions that elevates us.
If you’re up for the challenge, you’re in for some pleasant surprises.













