KEEPING YOUR SANITY BY NOT SHAMING YOUR FRIENDS
For many years psychological research tended to use guilt and shame interchangeably, which made it hard to see the very different qualities of each. But we know a lot more about those differences now, and they are substantial.
Guilt is associated with accepting responsibility. Shame, on the other hand, compels us to avoid responsibility, and makes us worse people.
Shame is a more primitive emotion than guilt. Guilt is a more sophisticated emotion that involves more complex thinking and problem solving.
With guilt, we feel bad about something that we’ve done. With shame, we feel bad about who we are. So let’s get to the practical point if this…




These are the only wild monkeys in the entire continent of Europe. Originally from the Atlas Mountains of Morocco and named for Moroccan Berbers, they stowed away on various ships of Portuguese, Spanish, and Arabs centuries ago and made themselves at home on the Rock of Gibraltar.







